Friendships while Adulting

Today I'm blogging about maintaining relationships while adulting. One of the things I put down under "relationships" in my 2020 vision board is to be a better sister/daughter/friend and lover. I'm quite useless with my phone. Yes, I may always have it in my hands but trust me it's cause I'm playing games on it. I struggle with keeping in touch with people. Case in point, I haven't spoken to my mother in three weeks. Yes, the woman who gave me life and can take me out at any given time has not heard my voice in three weeks. SMH.

I came up with a prayer/contact jar. Inside it has the names of a number of loved ones I need to keep in touch with but fail to. On two chosen days of the week; Tuesday and Thursday, I pick out a name at random and pray for the person. Then I'll make sure to call them and/or see them depending on proximity and availability. However, after praying for them, I'll transfer the sheet of paper with their name into another jar so it's a habit. I don't return it to the first jar cause I want all the names to get attention.

Anyways I shared it on my instagram and it was such a hit. I had at least 20 people saying they were going to try it and it made my heart so glad. Truth be told, I don't think anyone sets out to be a bad friend/family member but life really does get in the way and one has to be intentional about not letting their relationships grow cold. I know we all share quotes about the friendships that stand the test of time, the ones that even when you don't speak with often can pick up like nothing ever happened. While that is great, where do you draw the line between that and taking them for granted? Plus with the number of people going through things quietly, it would be great to check in ever so often. I particularly need to do better with my married friends as I tend to take a big step back cause I feel like I need to give them boundaries. But I miss them. I miss them like hell especially because making solid friends once you've reached a particular age just seems like an impossible mission.

If you're like me, the prayer/contact jar and a reminder on your phone will help you maintain your relationships while adulting.